Understanding Controlling Dynamics in Romantic Relationship Through Social Media: A Qualitative Study of Monitoring, Jealousy and Digital Boundaries

Abstract

Social media excessive use can transform romantic relationship in to different ways. It can be change by how an individual can communicate, shows affection and maintain digital boundaries. Day by day where social media facilitate but it also can cause jealousy, emotional insecurity and difficulty negotiating boundaries. With an emphasis on monitoring behaviors, jealousy, emotional insecurity, and digital boundaries among young adults in the Pakistani context, the current qualitative study sought to investigate controlling dynamics in romantic relationships using social media. A qualitative research design is used to gain in-depth insights. Semi-structured interviews with individuals who have used social media in romantic relationships were used to gather data, which was then subjected to thematic analysis. The results showed that digital surveillance activities, like checking one's online status, likes, and interactions, are frequently accepted as signs of concern rather than control. Social media has been found to be a major source of jealously, especially when interacting with people of the opposing gender. This can cause mental pain and insecurity. Due to unclear online conduct, participants often reported overanalysing and making unfavourable conclusions, which commonly led to dispute escalation. Participants' differing opinions on privacy, password sharing, and openness further demonstrated the difficulty of navigating digital borders. Rather than being the lack of insecurity, trust was defined as emotional assurance and honesty. Overall, the study shows that, especially in the sociocultural setting of Pakistan, social media plays a dual role by promoting connection but also escalating emotional difficulties and regulating dynamics inside romantic relationships.